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WHEN YOUR CHILD COMES HOME
2. Infants should be carried or worn close to the body not carried in stiff carriers. 3. If you are comfortable and child is young you may want to start him sleeping in your bed or at least in your room. 4. Know as much as you can about child’s background and previous living conditions as you can. 5.--Don’t overwhelm child with too many gifts and toys. 6. Let child know what your expectations are. 7. Teach child that relationships are reciprocal. 8. Hugs, eye contact and physical closeness. 9. Chores and limits are a good thing. 10. Know yourself—your attachment style, your vulnerabilities. 11. Get to know your child what are her rhythms? How does his temperament affect yours and vice versa 12. Know that separations and changes may be frightening 13. Don’t enroll child in a lot of activities. 14. Be a passionate parent—teach and model feelings 15. Prime attachment should be to mom and then to dad or to primary caretaker. 16., Holdings to promote safety and trust resulting in healthy
attachment. Read HOLDING TIME by Martha Welch and have a skilled
holding therapist or attachment parent trainer help you begin
the process.
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